Anglican Church has been promoting discrimination against women, I CAN NO LONGER KEEP QUITE. This act going on in the Anglican church has to stop. Any form of gender bias is ungodly. This church mandate that couple who want to get married must go for pregnancy test 2 weeks before wedding and if the woman is found to be even a day pregnant then she will be humiliated while the husband who got her pregnant will go scoot free.
I was elated when my friend invited me to her wedding which was supposed to hold at All saints cathedral Onitsha. I was billed to serve as one of her train. Imagine my shock when I got there 3 days to the wedding day only to see my friend crying.
She has lost a lot of weight and would not eat or be consoled. When I inquired to know what was eating her up. She told me she was pregnant and I was like she should be celebrating after all her wedding was in 2 days time while her traditional wedding was done almost 2 months back.
That was when she spilled the beans. She told me that the Church said that she would wear black wedding gown because she was not supposed to get pregnant before the wedding day. I was bemused. Worse is that they will not even inform you of this silly law until you must have paid the wedding fee of N30,000. At that point, they will only have you at their mercy because its already late for you to change venue and your invitation cards may have been all sent out.
The part that worries me greatly is that the women are the target of this "discriminatory" law. This is the 21st century for crying out loud. Why would the bride alone be punished for something that both She and the groom did? Why would the groom be allowed to adorned his full tuxedo while the bride is forced into some hideous clothing.
Yes, No s*x before marriage is good but honestly it is outdated to not understand your partners s*xuality before marriage. Worse is that some impotent people hide under the guise of born again to deceive other innocent people into marriages. Now when you finally end up with a barren or impotent partner, the same church will tell you that you must never divorce. Hell no.
This must stop. The Anglican Communion must clean up its mess and stop attacking women.
The part that worries me greatly is that the women are the target of this "discriminatory" law. This is the 21st century for crying out loud. Why would the bride alone be punished for something that both She and the groom did? Why would the groom be allowed to adorned his full tuxedo while the bride is forced into some hideous clothing.
Yes, No s*x before marriage is good but honestly it is outdated to not understand your partners s*xuality before marriage. Worse is that some impotent people hide under the guise of born again to deceive other innocent people into marriages. Now when you finally end up with a barren or impotent partner, the same church will tell you that you must never divorce. Hell no.
This must stop. The Anglican Communion must clean up its mess and stop attacking women.
- Angry "single" lady
That's what religion entails, you have to abide by the rules & ethics of any religion you claim to upheld without hesitation, if otherwise you cannot cope with any religion dictate, you are free to practice any religion of your choice but you cannot enforce your wish on religion.
ReplyDeleteIts normal. Even in my church
ReplyDeleteIts nt d fault of d church, dey ve rules u r expected 2 abide wiv, if u can't den u'll face d consequences..inumidun
ReplyDeletePlay by the rules sister!
ReplyDeleteJust passing by
ReplyDeleteThat has been the status quo from time immemorial!
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#Olu,can you see?
No to sex before marriage.
ReplyDeleteThe laid down rules cannot be changed. If indeed she has been a member of the church, she must have known the rules and should have played by it. Moreover, it is common knowledge in Christianity that if you want to have your wedding at the church, then you shouldn't get pregnant before the wedding day
ReplyDeleteAny way. U should not get pregnant before marriage. Serves her right
ReplyDeleteGo and get married too
ReplyDeletelol. Rural churches are strict with their rules. Epele.
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A lot of church is doing it my dear so take it easy.nenyekutes@gmail.com
ReplyDelete1st of all i wil beg God 2 4given u bcose ur utterance look insultiv, u talk of modern days what is ur bible saying about fornication, must u do it b4 de d day, 4 me this particular church has committed an abomination 4 allowing a pastor 2 preside over that weding. May God 4give all of u.
ReplyDelete1st of all i wil beg God 2 4given u bcose ur utterance look insultiv, u talk of modern days what is ur bible saying about fornication, must u do it b4 de d day, 4 me this particular church has committed an abomination 4 allowing a pastor 2 preside over that weding. May God 4give all of u.
ReplyDelete1st of all i wil beg God 2 4given u bcose ur utterance look insultiv, u talk of modern days what is ur bible saying about fornication, must u do it b4 de d day, 4 me this particular church has committed an abomination 4 allowing a pastor 2 preside over that weding. May God 4give all of u.
ReplyDeleteIts not even about the colour of the gown, the scriptures makes it clear that marriage should be honourable by not defiling the bed by pree-narital sex.
ReplyDeleteThe truth is that if we must be fair, a woman who is pregnant and the one who is no longer a virgin have both committed fornication. That one is pregnant is just an evidence that fornication took place.
ReplyDeleteWell that will not happen in my catholic church, and even these so-called strict pastors are even the ones impregnating numerous under-age girls at the same time. God help us shall.
ReplyDeletePoint noted. But, wait oo! Shebi, dem don do the traditional aspect, so wetin dey cause this humiliation, now? Well! If you ask me; i prefer traditional wedding to church wedding.
ReplyDeleteWe need some changes in churches, but not to abuse old church arrangements
ReplyDeleteSaying no sex b4 marriage is outdated is nonsense... Go follow God wey put the law down drag am na... But in terms of punishment appropriatn, she kinda av a point
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ReplyDeleteHer point is they both must be punished. Not only d bride.
ReplyDeleteShe have to abide by the ethics so is normal to me
ReplyDeleteIt actually goes beyond colour of the gown! The scripture is very clear that marriage should be honourable with.the bed undefiled by premarital sex.
ReplyDeletewhy this lady they rake like dis na? abeg calm down and be wise
ReplyDeleteThe laws of the Church must be followed. Nice one
ReplyDeleteShe should ask God for forgiveness and forget about wedding gown, she is crying because of white wedding gown and forget about the sin of disobedient to the church.
ReplyDeleteNo sex before marriage that is what my Bible said
ReplyDeleteAlmost everyone is right with their submissions on church rules and biblical points of views here on sex before marriage. But in truth there is gender inequality here as the angry lady has said. Both parties should be punished and not just the woman being humiliated.
ReplyDeleteHmmm...yes I believe in no sex before "marriage". My question is, when does a marriage get contracted? Is it when the bride price has been paid and accepted by the parents or when the church gives it's blessings?